by Samantha Daviss
Sometimes life just stinks. Sometimes life just slaps you in the face unexpectedly. But unfortunately, you must find your inner self, your inner peace, and your inner sanctum and keep moving forward.
I was lucky enough to marry my very best friend in the entire world. He listens to me rant and rave about various things. I have a really, really bad habit of repeating my issues or my problems, as if that is going to make them go away.
I just talk, and talk, and talk about them. I am the poster child for “beating a dead horse”. But he has always been my sounding board. About the 100th time, he kindly says, “Okay, now they aren’t going to change, or you can’t change that, so we need to just move on.” I smile, say it one more time out of frustration, and I move on. Because I know he’s right.
So, I asked him the other day. When something bothers him, why doesn’t he talk much about it, or vent or scream, or yell, or whatever he needs to do to get it out? His response was simple…” Would you rather have someone like me that is fairly calm to talk to or to argue with, or someone who is irrational?”
Although I completely agree with him, I responded with, if everyone were as calm as you, and didn’t have a little spunk, a little fire, or a little piss and vinegar, like I do…then the world would be an extremely boring place. Although he agreed, he reminded me, that there are just somethings in life we just can’t change.
We can’t change people’s minds;
We can’t change people’s opinions;
We can’t change people’s outlook on life;
We can’t change people’s attitudes;
We can’t change their backgrounds;
But the only thing we can do, is we can change ourselves. We can be there for one another, and help each other see the world for what it is. Help each other see the “Big {Picture”; help each other see the argument from the other person’s perspective, and pick ourselves up when we’ve been hurt the most be a big person and just move on.
Because in the end beyond all your fears lies your freedoms. Whatever your fears may be, whatever your freedoms need to be, they are there; you just need to recognize them, grab hold and realize that no matter who hurts you, no matter who doesn’t appreciate you, and no matter who can’t see things from your perspective, you have your right to believe in yourself.
